Welcome to Wake up and Worship!!
Today we are studying Romans 15:32, which says:
Then, by the will of God, I will be able to come to you with a joyful heart, and we will be an encouragement to each other. (NLT)
and that, by God’s will, I may come to you with joy and be refreshed together with you. (HCSB)
Then, God willing, I’ll be on my way to you with a light and eager heart, looking forward to being refreshed by your company. (The Message)
so that by God’s will I may come to you with joy and find rest in your company. (Amplified Bible)
That I may come unto you with joy by the will of God, and may with you be refreshed. (KJV)
What can acceptance can do for your soul?
When we are in a group that truly accepts us then we can be ourselves. I remember feeling this feeling for the first time with my husband. He let me be me and still does and I know that is why we are able to get along so well and enjoy each other’s company. We worked together and lived together for the first three years of our relationship. Currently, I have worked from home since 2020 and he has worked from home since 2015. We are literally together all the time and if we didn’t accept each other for who we are there would be issues.
A part of acceptance also brings other areas of our life to the surface. Here is a list that we are going to look at closer in the book, “How People Grow” by Dr. Henry and Dr. Townsend quoted below:
- “Needs. Like the example of the “giver” above, we need to need (Eccl. 4:9-12). Acceptance makes it acceptable to fell our incompleteness and spiritual poverty, without shame or guilt.
- Sins. By our very nature, we hide our sins even from ourselves. The law makes us fear that we will incur wrath if our sins are exposed. But when we experience acceptance, we not only tolerate looking at our transgressions, but look even deeper into ourselves for other dark places in which sin resides. (Ps. 139:23-24)
- Judged Parts. Certain feelings and aspects of our souls may not be intrinsically sinful; however, they may be parts that we don’t like or accept. Often we judge ourselves the way we have been judged. For example, someone who has encountered a lot of criticism in life for being angry may beat himself up when he gets mad, whether or not the anger is legitimate (Eph. 4:26). He may think of himself as bad and wrong for being angry. Thus, he may find himself in dangerous situations and not be able to use his anger to protect himself. For example, the man who feels that his anger toward his wife’s financial irresponsibility is bad may avoid dealing with the problem until they are deep in debt.
- Hiding styles. We also wear “fig leaves” over parts of ourselves to avoid experiencing negative things. For example, some people intellectualize to stay away from emotions that trouble or frighten them. They live in their heads to avoid their hearts. Sometimes people condemn themselves for the very styles they are using to avoid other condemned aspects of themselves. For example, the intellectualize may hate herself for seeming so distant or disconnected from her friends.
- Brokenness and weakness. All of us have weaknesses that need to be accepted by God and others to be restored. Many times these frailties aren’t sins, but merely inabilities. For example, some individuals may be emotionally unable to trust and reach out; others may struggle with standing up to controlling people; still others may be easily wounded by criticism because of some unresolved need for approval. The healing begins when acceptance makes it safe enough to admit these realities to ourselves.”
Looking at that list makes me know how life can be so hard. Why it’s hard to have relationships with other people. However, when we form relationships that offer acceptance we are able to heal each other as explained in God’s Word.
My healing journey began with someone else accepting me for me which in turn helped me to accept me for me and really get to know myself. I was able to accept who I was and see what I needed to work on. God is continuing to work in my life and in my heart.
Being around people who accept you, will help you to feel safe and to be able to confess the parts that need healing in your life.
James 5:16 states, “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.”
I know this is something that my husband and I have done over the years, and it is so freeing. This helped me to grow spiritually because through confession and acceptance, I was able to move on and grow in other areas that needed healing.
This process has given me the ability to accept my feelings and to act on them when needed. Before, I was told that the way I felt about something was wrong so I did not trust myself or my gut. Now, I can trust my feelings and defend them when necessary instead of second guessing myself. My self confidence improved and knowing who I am and what I stood for came to light. (Remember, I met my husband at 22 even so I am still working on things to this day and still need help)
Lord, help us to be accepting and encouraging you of who you are. God will bring to light the changes that we need to make and we need to trust the process in our lives and others. Amen.
Have a blessed day in the Lord! Remember, Jesus loves you!
Matthew Henry Commentary
Strong’s Greek Hebrew Dictionary